your bra strap is showing please hide it because it is suggestive. also your boobs are producing lumps in your shirt please hide them. your butt is in the same situation please get rid of it. also your legs. your arms. your face.
I can see your feet and it’s very distracting and slightly arousing.
Anonymous said: Saggy tits. Who would spend money on that lol
What? My boobs are great.
See? Perfectly fine.
I mean, yeah, they jiggle and wobble and don’t sit high up on my chest. But that’s normal.
Like what do you think I should do about it? I mean
My boobs just do normal boob things. They’re A-okay normal healthy boobs.
Moral: Boobs are really diverse. Do your boobs sag? Normal. Do they have hair? Normal. Do they have stretch marks? Normal. Do you get pimples on them? Normal. Are they different sizes? Normal. Big nipples? Normal. Puffy dark areola? Normal. Not facing dead ahead? Normal. Small? Normal. Big? Normal. Normal Normal Normal.
And they’re your boobs. If you can change any of those things and you want to, go ahead!
But don’t let people tell you that your breasts are wrong just because they’re affected by gravity.
You’re fine. They’re fine.
This. So very much this.
A while ago I saw someone in the polyamory tag write that they wanted to see more people talk about navigating poly relationships while dealing with mental health. I’d like to try to say a bit, but I’m not exactly sure what to say. I can only talk about my own experiences, of course.
I sometimes struggle with depression and often struggle with anxiety, and I think it’s important to be open about mental health experiences in a similar way to how I think it’s important to be out about sexuality.
Some quick things I think are worth sharing: I was on meds for 2 years, but I got off them about half a year ago. A lot of my family members have dealt with similar stuff. I didn’t really get how bad my anxiety was until a close friend at work said something. He could see visible signs of my anxiety throughout the workday, and it hadn’t quite registered for me that this wasn’t a normal way to spend the day.
Depression and anxiety make dating and relationship more difficult for me. It’s harder to write messages to people on OkCupid, and harder to get out the door to go on dates, and harder to flirt with people at parties, and harder to express my sexual desires, and harder to trust that my partners actually like me and want to be around me. That’s all mostly true whether I’m in monogamous relationships or nonmonogamous relationships. It seems like I’m just anxious about slightly different things.
The meds helped, and they helped me learn some stuff that lasts even now that I’m off them. They also came with some sexual side affects. I didn’t want to live with those forever, though they did end up teaching me some good things about my sexuality.
I think nonmonogamy is partially appealing to me because it helps me not build up quite as much anxiety around one particular person. Maybe that is also to say I use it to avoid some level of intimacy, which probably is not a great coping mechanism.
I was in therapy for a few months. I thought I was in therapy to deal with being depressed, but I ended up talking a lot more about my relationships. Therapy essentially ended up being a way for me to figure out I needed to end a relationship that wasn’t working for me any more.
I found a therapist who was listed in a directory of poly-friendly professionals, but I still felt really awkward talking about nonmonogamy. She wasn’t judgmental about my relationships, but she also didn’t say anything to particularly put me at ease. I wish I’d felt her out more on the subject before booking a session, so I either could have felt comfortable talking about it with her or found someone else to work with.
(I’ve shared some recommendations for finding a poly-friendly therapist previously here.)
I’m still figuring out how my mental health intersects with how I navigate relationships. I’m not really sure. I’d like to see more people write about this stuff.